Embrace the Midyear Reset: 14 Key Reflections

Turn the clock back 6 months. 

I made a new year action plan, things I wanted to work on and goals I set for myself. It’s midyear, and reflecting, I think I’m going to shift from those “goals” and resolutions to instead focus on what I’ve been finding more helpful to keep in mind. 

Less concrete perhaps, but as a “recovering perfectionist” I’m going to experiment with leaning on these themes to live by. Not a specific goal, per se, more a way of being.

Taking a moment with my dog on my lap and a fresh cup of tasty coffee by my side, here’s how my reflections landed: 

  1. Find Peace in the process (not the end game – enjoy the journey, the destination may always be shifting)..
  2. Opportunity for progress is what creates a full and meaningful life.
  3. Gratitude and mindset are the biggest game changers 
  4. Sleep too. Stop and sleep when it’s time, pushing through tired is counterproductive in the long run.
  5. Words matter. “I get to” vs “I have to.” “Inconvenience” vs. “tragedy.”
  6. Do the hard tasks first.
  7. When you’re not motivated, take the smallest first step- motivation is built by action, not always the other way around. 
  8. Hydrate, eat nourishing foods- esp if you’re feeling grumpy. 
  9. Do what your future self would be proud of. 
  10. PLAY. Be silly, have fun, enjoy moments of levity. 
  11. Love hard, let that include yourself. Especially yourself. 
  12. It’s amazing what fresh air can do. Get outside. Often.
  13. Stow the screens when possible. Disconnect to connect to what’s real. 
  14. Stay curious. There’s always something to learn. 
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A cozy morning scene with an open journal and steaming cup of tea on a wooden table

I’ve learned from others daily. Let’s keep that going. Please feel open to sharing any of your own thoughts in the comments, you never know who you might inspire or impact by just taking a moment. Connection is key. What would be on your list?

Embracing November: Gratitude for What’s Within Us

As we brace for the holiday this week, we’re reminded of giving thanks: for the people we love, the comforts we enjoy, the blessings around us. But there’s a deeper layer of gratitude that often gets overlooked — the gratitude within us. Instead of only thanking the external (“what we have”), what if we paused this month to thank ourselves: for our qualities, our resilience, our uniqueness?

Why turn gratitude inward?

Typically, gratitude focuses outward: “I’m thankful for my family,” “I’m grateful for my home,” “I love my pets.” And those are wonderful and important. But when we shift the lens inward, a few things happen:

  • We acknowledge qualities that make us who we are — our kindness, curiosity, creativity, perseverance.
  • We build self‑recognition and self‑esteem by noticing our internal assets rather than only external acquisitions.
  • We anchor our wellbeing not just on what happens to us but who we are and how we respond.

In other words: gratitude doesn’t have to be just about what surrounds us, but also about what lives within us.

How might we get started?

Consider the following (it can be helpful to grab a piece of paper, but do what feels best to support you):

  • Which qualities make you you, and which of them are you most proud of?
  • When you look back on a challenge you’ve navigated, what inner strength or trait helped you?
  • What small act of kindness, creativity, or resilience did you show recently (maybe no one else noticed) — and can you say “thank you” to yourself for it?

This month, let your gratitude include you. Let it celebrate the internal — the quiet but powerful part of you that shows up daily.  

I’d love to keep this conversation going in the comments. Feel free to share what thoughts came up for you and what lovely qualities you will celebrate this week and beyond.

I’m Back!

It’s been a LONG time since I’ve added a new post in this space, so I wanted to share some updates about what I’ve been up to. I think the blog post from my artist website sums it up nicely, so if you’d like, please read on. The post below was originally published on http://www.monicasafin.com on July 28th, 2024…

Everyone likes a good story and people are starting to know me from my books. They are the culmination of my passion for creating, my love for nature, my experiences of raising children, and my knowledge of holistic health and wellness.  Stories have always been an important part of my life, as they are to many of you reading this. So, I’d love to share more of my story with you. 

Raising tiny humans forced me to slow down and during that time my mind kept churning. Trained and licensed as an Occupational Therapist, I wanted to keep sharing tidbits of knowledge that I learned from research, from practice, and from personal experience; both the triumphs and the failures. So I started to blog for a bit- sharing the knowledge from my profession that I could apply to my personal life and raising my children. 

My mind continued to swim in the nuances and the beauty of day to day life, and the first few lines in what would eventually be a whole picture book, emerged in my mind while finishing up a  jog one afternoon. The actual completion of the project was a different story… it ended up taking the better part of the summer to get it just the way I wanted it. Writing can be like that- a few thoughts at first, then they compound and in what seems like both eternity and magic, it comes to fruition. So the writing of The Whispering Tree came first, then I had a decision to make. Upon the story being rejected by traditional publishers, I could either throw it in the trash, or complete the work myself. 

I’ve never excelled at  drawing nor stood out as an art student, and I have terrible penmanship. Yet, I had sculpted numerous wedding cakes from fondant and chocolate clay for close friends and family. So I grabbed the cake tools and some polymer clay and went to town. The first character was supposed to resemble a sweet kid, but turned out to look more like an ogre, yet I kept going. What was born from my endless hours making cakes and shifting those motor memories into working with clay was my first completed picture book. 

Fast forward two books, one pandemic, one divorce, two house moves later and  I’m creating a new identity for myself as an artist. One art fair at a time at a time, that is. The thing about creatives is that what people see in the moment isn’t nearly the whole story. 

The present moment fails to capture the decades of experiences, progress, practice, trials and failures that led us here. And we’re not done yet. At least I’m sure not. 

Thank you for diving into the cliff notes of my art journey, it’s surely still a work in progress. Stay tuned for the next chapter. 

For more information about my artwork, please visit: www.monicasafin.com

For more information about my three picture books, please visit: www.placidrapids.com

Book Inspired Roll-A-Movement Break

Roll A Movement Break

For those of you who have been following my blog, you may remember that I recently wrote and illustrated two children’s books. I recently had the opportunity to share my writing and illustrating process with hundreds of amazing young people, and in preparation for my book presentions, my OT-inspired mind was working overtime. I decided to make yet another fun movement break game, this time inspired by the illustrations in one of my books, The Whispering Tree. 

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To use this fun little movement activity in your home or classroom, please feel free to download the template I created here: Book Inspired Game Download 

My kids love acting out the motions, trying to be leaves in the wind, butterflies, or marching ants. As always, happy reading and let those imaginations soar!  

For more information about my picture books (or to order a signed copy), check out this website!

A Children’s Book to Encourage Nature Exploration and Imagination

“I feel like I’ve neglected this blog, but I finally finished a book!”

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It feels like forever since I’ve posted a blog, but my negligence to otmomsays.com is due to a different (and exciting) project.

Inspired by my children’s fascination for nature and my own belief of the importance of spending time outdoors, I created The Whispering Tree, a book about a young boy who explores his yard and expands his imagination. The story aims to encourage children’s desire to play outdoors, as nature offers a rich sensory experience that is ideal for promoting healthy mental and physical development for young children.

The book begins in the spring and continues through all four seasons. The little boy discovers that the natural world is a fun and inspiring place to play and spend his time.  While exploring his yard, he expands his imagination in ways such as seeing shapes in the clouds and imagining the intentions of the insects he discovers.

Each page of the story was individually crafted using acrylic backgrounds and hand sculpted clay figures with mixed media details.  With the turn of each page, the scenery shifts slightly as nature is constantly evolving with each gust of wind.

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In creating The Whispering Tree, I felt at times that it would have been much easier to make just a couple of trees and a couple of images of the boy character and then manipulate them digitally. Sitting stooped over my desk of clay crumbles, completed heads, and hand-crafted leaves, I was tempted- but it would have felt like cheating. In creating The Whispering Tree, I wanted to capture the essence of the ever-changing natural world.

The little boy’s journey continues to the following spring where he shares his favorite outdoor place with his little sister, sharing a special sibling moment full of love.

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If you’re interested in purchasing a copy of The Whispering Tree, please request your local bookstore to add it to their inventory (ISBN 978-1-7326216-0-2). It is available at Horizon Books in downtown Traverse City, MI, McLean and Eakin Booksellers in downtown Petoskey, MI, Tip’n the Mitten in Grayling, MI, several other bookstores and online book retailers nationwide, including here https://aerbook.com/store/Placid_Rapids

Check out our publishing website at www.placidrapids.com for more information soon!

Happy reading!

If you are interested in a signed copy, email monica@placidrapids.com

Upper Extremity Weigh Bearing for Kids: the What, Why, and How

Weight bearing is exactly what it sounds like, supporting the body’s weight through the extremities. While kids are frequently standing, walking and running, putting pressure through their legs, it’s also very important not to forget to incorporate weight bearing for the arms.

Upper extremity weight bearing, what why and how

By engaging in weight bearing activities through the arms, children strengthen their hands, wrists, elbows, shoulders and even neck and core muscles. Strong proximal muscles also allow for children to have better control of their distal muscles, which is necessary for fine motor coordination.

In this day and age of increased technology use, younger generations are demonstrating weaker grip strength as compared to older generations2. Yet, school aged children are expected to meet the demands of academic expectations including efficient and legible handwriting. Encouraging children to engage their arms in strengthening activities early on can help set the stage to increased success with later motor skills, including handwriting.

Weight bearing activities also provide awareness into the joints– this is known as proprioceptive input and in addition to providing information about the body’s position in space, it also has an impact on a child’s state of arousal, as in how alert or calm they are. For more information on proprioception, check out this article.

To incorporate weight bearing throughout the day, try to encourage kids to participate in some of these activities that have the above-mentioned benefits and more:

animal walks for UE weight bearing

Try animal walks, such as walking on hands and feet like a bear, crab walking, etc.  Find a few more examples and two free gross motor animal walk game printables here.

Stretches, push-ups, planks and yoga poses that use different positions to put weight through outstretched arms, such as downward dog.

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Bring it to the floor. Puzzles, crafts, toys can all be played with on the floor. Encourage kids to weight bear on their arms to reach for toys and manipulate items. This also helps with dissociating the different sides of the body and crossing midline, and encourages bilateral coordination skills.  Crawling while pushing a toy car, truck, or boat along the floor is a fun one for toddlers.

Obstacle courses that encourage crawling and climbing are a great way to exercise the entire body, including the arms, legs and core. Try to be creative with it, including obstacles to climb over or under, such as a tunnel, over couch cushions, or through a tent. My kids love crawling through our homemade car wash box.

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Use a Scooter board! Use both arms to propel forward while lying on the board. You can make it more challenging by creating obstacle course or scooter board races with a friend.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommends that children should be getting at least 60 minutes of physical activity each day1. Of this one hour or more, activities should include aerobic activity, muscle strengthening, and bone strengthening activities. Weight bearing activities fall into the muscle strengthening category for children, and it could also lead to bone strengthening (such as when jumping or hoping is incorporated) and aerobic activity as well depending on the nature of the activity.

Get those kids moving, and have fun with it!

References:

  1. “How much physical activity do children need?” Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 4 June 2015, http://www.cdc.gov/physicalactivity/basics/children/index.htm.
  2.  Fain, E. & Weatherford, C. (2016). Comparative study of millenials’ (aged 20-34 years) grip and lateral pinch with the norms. Journal of Hand Therapy Oct-Dec 29(4). pp.483-488.

*Disclaimer: The information presented in the blog is intended for information purposes only. Please consult your physician with any medical concerns and/or for medical advice. The information presented is not intended to be used in place of individualized therapy services, please contact your health care team for skilled therapy if you think it is necessary. Please supervise your children (or friends, spouses, etc)  if you decide to try any of the activities or ideas presented as the author or this blog does not claim liability for possible injury or negative consequences related to the activities and ideas presented here.

Fingerprint Penguin Ornaments

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Last week I described the very fun and engaging Fine Motor DIY Ornament Station that provided some great fine motor practice. It was the first step to this year’s homemade Christmas ornaments.   Each holiday season, we love to make keepsake ornaments for our tree as well as for gifts for grandparents and close friends.

This year we decided to make penguins- one of my son’s favorite animals (and we had already done snowmen, reindeer, Santas, and Christmas light ornaments in previous years).

Penguin Ornaments

My kids loved filling the ornaments with pompom balls for this project. We used a variety of hollow plastic bulbs that can be found at most craft stores, super centers or online here.

To complete the ornaments, we used white paint for finger prints. Some ornaments hand only a couple prints, some as many as four. Finger prints and finger painting provided for some fun tactile exploration. Some of the fingerprints smeared a bit, but that’s ok! The beauty of homemade ornaments is that each on is different and unique.

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It was quite easy to turn the prints into penguins: just a couple eyes, a beak, a black outline, little wings, and orange feet.

Some of the ornaments we left as is, others we added snowflakes, hats, scarves, and/or earmuffs.

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These turned out super cute, let me know how it goes if you decide to try them too!

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Fine Motor DIY Ornament Station

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It’s getting colder, and for many of us, it’s time to take down the water tables. Luckily, however, it is NOT the end of utilizing the water table for something different.

This week, I cleaned out our water table and brought it inside for some fun holiday fine motor crafting.

Every year, my kids enjoy making homemade ornaments, and this year, the water table is the perfect place to do this activity. Our water table provided a kid area that kept all the items (mostly) contained. We’ve done similar projects described below at a regular table, but the water table kept everything in one spot longer, and it kept the much-used dining table clear of our sensory materials/craft supplies. Another alternative idea that works great for sensory exploration is to use a simple shallow plastic bin if you don’t have a water table.

HOLIDAY SENSORY ACTIVITY

This DIY ornament station is super simple, yet it keeps little hands busy and entertained for double-digit minutes at a time (if you have or know a toddler, you know double digit entertainment is HUGE and often times hard to come by).

Here’s what we did:
We stocked up on the DIY plastic hollow ornaments and tons and tons of pompom balls. We chose holiday pompoms, but any pompoms are sure to please!

*Also, close adult supervision was included for the littles who tried to eat such fuzzy fun treasures*

The simple task of squeezing the pompoms into the ornaments kept my kids entertained and working on their bilateral motor skills, fine motor skill development, and provided some great sensory feedback. Providing different sizes of ornaments and different sizes of pompoms allows for a great toddler learning opportunity.

SENSORY TABLE ORNAMENT STATION

In addition to the ornaments, I provided my kids with some fun tools to provide free play and opportunities for additional motor skill acquisition.

The best part was that both of my kids came up with their own games in the days that followed the initial ornament filling! My son popped the pompoms allover (like “popcorn”) and then had the opportunity to clean it up (luckily he’s into brooms) and my daughter used these awesome scissor tongs to fill Santa’s sleigh with the holiday balls of goodness.

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So, this has completed our first step to this year’s DIY ornaments! It was so much fun… stay tuned to see the finished (painted) product!

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*Disclaimer: The information presented in the blog is intended for information purposes only. Please consult your physician with any medical concerns and/or for medical advice. The information presented is not intended to be used in place of individualized therapy services, please contact your health care team for skilled therapy if you think it is necessary. Please supervise your children (or friends, spouses, etc)  if you decide to try any of the activities or ideas presented as the author or this blog does not claim liability for possible injury or negative consequences related to the activities and ideas presented here.


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DIY Cardboard Box Carwash

My son (once again) said, “Maybe go to the carwash today.”

OT mom said, “Instead, let’s play car wash!”

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My son’s current obsession is anything carwash. Just about everyday, he asks if we can go to the carwash when we are out running errands. His love for playing carwash inspired my latest activity idea: a fun, DIY crawl through car wash!

The kids can play with this several ways: by actually pretending they are the “cars” or using it to wash their big toy cars and trucks by pushing them through. It has proven to be extremely entertaining for their busy minds, and in addition to the great imagination and pretend play engagement it promotes, there are additional hidden benefits as well.

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Crawling through the tunnel gives my kids a dose of proprioceptive input, which can do wonders for regulating the sensory system. Click here to learn more about proprioceptive input.

By weight bearing on extended arms during crawling, it also provides strengthening for the shoulders, arms, core, and even the muscles of the hands. Putting weight through open hands strengthens the arches in the hands- which will be important for the development of handwriting and other fine motor skills.

While pushing cars through the car wash tunnel, you may notice a child using one hand on the ground to stabilize, and the other hand to push the car through. This promotes dissociation of the two sides of the body and allows for practice with crossing midline and bilateral coordination skills. 

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My son didn’t play with the car wash the same way the whole time this evening. He tried to wash his wagon, his truck, and he pretended to be the car. By moving his body (and toys) through the makeshift car wash, he had the opportunity to work on his motor planning  and praxis skills. The development of such skills relies on using novelty in movement sequences.

But the list goes on… we made our car wash “scrubbers,” as my son calls them, brightly colored and slightly different fabrics, so my daughter enjoyed the tactile discrimination aspect of playing with the wash. We added an “open” and “closed” sign for fun (and it stayed open all evening).  I was pleasantly surprised with my kids’ ability to take turns moving through the car wash and sharing their space- a thing I think most siblings have trouble with.

The bonus was that I didn’t spend a penny on this project- I used scrap fabric and a leftover moving box. It feels good to save money and reuse old items.

So here’s how I made it:

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I  started with an extra large moving box, with one end taped. Using a utility knife, I cut off the flaps from one side. (Please use caution with the utility knife).

Next, cut out a door for each side. Above the door, cut small holes about 1/2 an inch above the doorway.  I didn’t measure initially, I just eyeballed the size based on the size of my kids and their toys. It turned out to be  about 14 inches wide and just over 17 inches high.

DIY carwash

I used fabric strips to make the “scrubbers” (I had some leftover from another project or you could use scrap clothes, etc). I didn’t measure these initially, but they were about 2-3 inches in width by about 19 inches long.

Once you have your fabric strips, cut a small hole from about 1/2 inch from the end and feed that through a hole in the box. To secure, feed the opposite end of the fabric through the hole and pull snug. Continue until all the holes have scrubbers.

Since kids don’t seem to mind if things aren’t measured perfectly, it was a pretty quick project to complete.

DIY Carwash open

Just for fun I used some scrap cardboard and sticky-back velcro to make an “Open/Close” sign for the carwash. You could easily do this with markers or paint. It’s as easy as that!

If you decide to try this easy, beneficial DIY activity, please remember to keep your kids supervised for this activity!  I’d love to hear how your kids liked it!

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*Disclaimer

Please use supervision with this activity, as young children or children with motor skills difficulties may get tangled up in the fabric strips.

The information presented in the blog is intended for information purposes only. Please consult your physician with any medical concerns and/or for medical advice. The information presented is not intended to be used in place of individualized therapy services, please contact your health care team for skilled therapy if you think it is necessary. Please supervise your children (or friends, spouses, etc)  if you decide to try any of the activities or ideas presented as the author or this blog does not claim liability for possible injury or negative consequences related to the activities and ideas presented here.

Go Outside! (Reasons Why and Ideas for What to do While You’re Outdoors)

OT Mom says, “Let’s go outside!”

Dr. Dad says, “Let’s go outside!”

Finally, something we can agree on. When it comes to spending time outdoors, we are completely on the same page. Not only do we both enjoy it, we know there are countless benefits to outdoor time.

There is a growing base of evidence that identifies both physical and mental health benefits to spending time outdoors and in natural settings.

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In a 2015 Environmental Health Perspectives article,  Nate Seltenrich summarizes some of the benefits, “… research has shown that outdoor exercise in nature can enhance emotional well-being and amplify the benefits of physical exercise. And for kids in particular, being in or near green spaces has been found to be associated with better test scores, improved self-discipline and cognition, and reduced behavioral problems and symptoms of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).” You can find the original article, including the sources from the research here.

There’s even a movement for health professionals to prescribe time outdoors. Such “park prescription” programs aim to promote knowledge and information about the benefits of spending time in nature and community green spaces with the overall goal for increased individual and community health. The National ParkRx Initiative  is a great resource with more information about the health benefits that parks and green spaces can offer as well as resources for agencies that want to or currently participate in a park prescription programs.

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The best part about spending time in nature is it’s generally FREE. And whether it’s spending time in your backyard, a nature preserve, an urban green space, or any other park, there’s likely going to be benefits.

Now that you know some of the numerous mental and physical health benefits of nature, here’s some fun ideas to try if you don’t quite know what to do with your kids (or yourself) once you’re out enjoying the fresh air.

Walk, Jog, or Run

Try a stroll on a beach, a jog through the woods, or a race across a park, depending on your fitness level, abilities, and interests. My kids love playing simple, classic games like “chase” and tag. It gets us all moving and the fresh air is reinvigorating.

While you’re at it, don’t be afraid to splash in some puddles, jump in a pile of leaves, or lay down in the snow to make a snow angel, depending on the season.

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Look for Something

I have fond memories of collecting rocks as a child and my kids just started to show interest in it too. However, currently they prefer to look for worms. Adults may enjoy bird or butterfly watching. Every spring our family looks for edible mushrooms in the woods (I only suggest this if you are certain you know which are edible as many are poisonous and even deadly). Kids and adults alike may enjoy looking for things like wild blueberries, or collecting colorful leaves in the fall.

You can even try a scavenger hunt. Here’s an example of a general one:

Nature Scavenger Hunt

Please feel free to download the pdf if you’d like to give it a try: Nature Scavenger Hunt

Create Something (out of nature or for nature)

Draw in the dirt, build a sand castle, stack up some rocks, or plant a garden. An activity I love is making bird feeders with my kids and putting them out in the trees in our yard.

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Use Some Equipment

Ride a bike, kick a ball, head down a slide, or go kayaking.  While a lot of equipment may cost money, you can keep it simple and utilize public parks with things like swings and slides for your kids or invest in a football to play catch.

We invested in a bean bag toss (corn hole) game that even gets the adults wanting to play outside.
 

Visit Some Animals

Many communities have outdoor green spaces that have an abundance of wildlife. Ideas would include checking your area for places like fish hatcheries, and nature preserves.  You can keep an eye out for free events such as free fishing days for kids and farm days/petting zoos.

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Just Enjoy It

Look around and take all the beauty in. Look at the clouds and day dream. Stop and smell the flowers.

As a mom, I’m so happy to have read much of the research to motivate me to get my kids outside as much as possible. As a healthcare worker, I am excited to spread some knowledge and try to incorporate more nature into practice as well.

Still, not quite motivated to head outside? Maybe getting outside will give you the mental and physical energy you’re looking for. In yet another study, spending time in nature was found to be correlated with improvements vitality. So now that you’ve read this, turn off your device and (weather permitting) head outside.

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*Disclaimer: The information presented in the blog is intended for information purposes only. Please consult your physician with any medical concerns and/or for medical advice. The information presented is not intended to be used in place of individualized therapy services, please contact your health care team for skilled therapy if you think it is necessary. Please supervise your children (or friends, spouses, etc)  if you decide to try any of the activities or ideas presented as the author or this blog does not claim liability for possible injury or negative consequences related to the activities and ideas presented here.  Please use common sense and safety when engaging in outdoor activities (for example check weather conditions, supervise children, and take precautions such as sunscreen, etc).

References:

n.a (2016) About the Initiative. ParkRx.org/community-of-practice retrieved 4/24/2017

Ryan, A., Weinstein, N. & Bernstein, J (et al) (2010). Vitalizing effects of being outdoors and in nature. Journal of Environmental Psychology. 30: 159-168

Seltenrich, N (2015). Just what the doctor ordered: using parks to improve children’s health. Environ Health Perspect 123: A254-A259; http//dx.doi.org/10.1289/ehp.123-A254